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If I forgive this person, does that mean I'm saying what he did was OK? Am I excusing him?

Forgiving someone for what they have done to you does not excuse what happened. You are in no way saying that the way the person acted was OK. Instead, what you are doing is trusting God to do as He said he would. He says, “I will take vengeance; I will repay those who deserve it (Romans 12:19, NLT). By forgiving someone you are really releasing yourself from the burden of carrying that grudge and hurt. When you insist on carrying your grudges, you get tied up in them until that’s all that you can see. I know that you want to hold onto that--it helps us to feel like we’re insulated, like we won’t be hurt again. But what really happens is we begin to grow bitter and cynical. As you grow colder and more guarded, everything shuts down. Soon you won’t be able to experience happiness or love. You do more damage to yourself by not forgiving than you do to the other person. Also, you experience more freedom by forgiving them than they will.

It doesn’t seem natural but you need to allow God to take your bitterness and help you forgive. You can move ahead into the future with Jesus who loves you and desires you or you can remain stuck in the past alone and bitter. “Don’t let evil get the best of you, but conquer evil by doing good” (Romans 12:21, NLT).

There's more:  Romans 12:17-21